Asking someone to be a bridesmaid is a big deal. You are asking someone you love, a friend or a family member, not just to play a special role on the day of your wedding but to be hands-on with pre-wedding festivities. Asking someone to be a bridesmaid also shows the depth of your friendship; you are telling this person how much they mean to you and how important they are in your life.
Understandably, you want to get the asking part right (we can call it proposing). You might be wondering if there is a right or wrong way to ask someone to be a bridesmaid or how to make this person feel special. For help, we turned to Jen Glantz, Founder of Bridesmaid for Hire, a professional bridesmaid service. She is also an author and host of the podcast You’re Not Getting Any Younger.
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Jen Glantz is Founder of Bridesmaid for Hire, a professional bridesmaid service
Glantz says there is no right way to ask someone to be a bridesmaid. “After you decide who you want to be in your bridal party, think about the right way to ask them,” she says. “If you have a friend who loves surprises and lives nearby, doing it in person might make them feel extra special. If you have friends who live far away, and you won’t have a chance to ask them in person, it’s okay to give them a ring and ask over the phone.” But she also gives ideas and suggestions for how to best pop the big question. Read on to learn her advice.