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If you’re coming up on 23 years of marriage together, it’s certainly something to celebrate. You’ll want to find the perfect gift for your partner to commemorate the big day–after 23 years, you’ve surely come up with many clever gift ideas. Looking for something new? We’ve got you covered.
The traditional and modern gift for a 23rd anniversary is silver-plate, which can apply to a whole range of household products and accessories. You can certainly follow the theme, choosing a silver-plated gift such as barware, a picture frame, or jewelry, or you might choose to come up with something more out-of-the-box. From foodie gifts to custom home goods, the options are endless.
Read on for the best 23rd anniversary gift ideas.
What to look for in a 23rd anniversary gift
The traditional and modern gift, silver plate
The 23rd-anniversary gift, both in the traditional and modern sense, is silver plate. That can be interpreted in a variety of ways to include silver dinnerware, barware, jewelry, and more. But it’s also ok—and even encouraged—to stray from the theme if it means gifting your spouse something that’s truly meaningful to them.
Psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel recommends gifts that bring in new energy “I like generative gifts that bring in novelty but still rest on the stability of the past,” she says. “Make sure to also add in something fresh and new for the future.”
If you’d prefer to select a gift that’s incredibly meaningful to you and your partner, or that offers an experience, you may choose to stray from the theme. “Think of gifts that drive a renewed attention to one another: a set of silver-colored bikes instead of a silver plate; a piece of art, or an immersive art experience; or perhaps a series of cooking classes that will reinvigorate what happens at the dining table every night for the next year,” suggests Perel.
Don’t be afraid to stray from traditional and modern gift ideas. For some couples, it may be the best choice. “Tradition and etiquette were great when we were only married for 20 years, but when marriage lasts 40, 50, 60 years, what we want is to be surprised. The best thing about tradition and etiquette is the opportunity to break the rules and ‘infuse it with personal meaning’ as Priya Parker says,” says Perel.
Meet the Expert
Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist, relationship expert, podcast host, and the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity.
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